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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:29 PM
The reason I ask is because of something I observed last Friday night. I was over at some long time friends home. As their 18 yeard old daughter was leaving to go with some friends my old friend told her daughter "don't be smoking any pot if it's offered to you ok?"

The daughter responded "oh mom you know I don't do that". The mother said " I know but I'm just so affraid".

The thing that caused me to be analytical was that I met the mother back in high school over30 years ago and she was one of the biggest consumers of pot I knew for several years, even though I don't think she has partaken in 20 plus years.

Has your opinion on that issue changed since you have children of your own?

[Edited on 1/10/2006 by Peachstatedawg]

 
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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:33 PM
I started getting high at 14. As a result, I lost all of my academic ambition. I lived to party, so instead of cracking the books, I worked evenings so I would have money for gas, grass and ass. I don't want my daughters doing the same things I did, which amounts to making bad decisions at an early age. Once they get though high school and college, they can make their own choices then. But while I still have a say in their lives, I'm not gonna tolerate it.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:41 PM
I hope my daughter waits to decide if she is going to drink and smoke pot.Of the two I much rather her smoke pot than drink. But I do pray that she waits until she is 18 or older.But if she does doit she better call me for a ride home

Big Dave,I started smoking pot at 13 and the same thing here,lost interest in school and sports,only getting high,drinking,music and my friends were my priority back then.We did have some fun though,but sometimes I wonder at what cost.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:43 PM
I worked evenings so I would have money for gas, grass and ass.


LOL Dave your expressions reminds me so much of my wife's brother. You may have a twin separated at birth her in Atlanta.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:45 PM
I'm 15, started when I was 14, but have stopped recently. I need to focus on my school work and basketball (we're playing Mount Vernon tomorrow, ranked 14th in the country, huge game). I've been off the stuff for about 2 months now.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:45 PM
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I worked evenings so I would have money for gas, grass and ass.


LOL Dave your expressions reminds me so much of my wife's brother. You may have a twin separated at birth her in Atlanta.
Actually, that's an old biker expression. "Gas, grass or ass. No one rides for free."

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:56 PM
Hey you little bastards! I find you raidin' my stash one more time and you're grounded. Do you hear me? I mean it this time, damn it!


Seriously though, just because we did it doesn't make it right. For the same reasons I would discourage alcohol usage, I would do the same for pot.

Now, quit bogartin' and pass the roach, dude!

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 08:58 PM

I would rather my daughter not get high at all.........

I have been smoking for 34 years.....and she knows that Dad has and is still paying for partying to hard most of his life.

She got a DUI 2 years ago at age 21, her then boyfriend was to drunk and he coaxed her into driving for him....something I never ask my girlfiriends to do if they were drinking to much back in the day.

I told my daughter that I would rather have her sit home and get stoned every so often...other than drink and drive.

I drank until I was 40...if any human ever deserved a DUI...I did...but God had to have been watching over me....I never got a DUI and I talked my way out of at least 3 .

I would advise any teen to stay away from drugs........I killed my self-esteem and confiidence in myself.

I'm trying to put the Weed away for good now.......but who knows.

Casual smoker - okay

Pothead - ZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I hate alcohol now....cause it has ruined so many people lives that I have known.

But I don't lecture folks that do drink....i'm just glad I don't.

I always cared more about weed than having alcohol.

ONE THING I WISH EVERYONE would stay away from is METH !!!!

I tried smoking it within 2005... 2 or 3 times and had enough sense left in my shot out brain...to never try it again.

It hurt me for a while...mentally and physically...and that was just a few tries....I was an IDIOT for that.

METH IS HORRIBLE AND IT KILLS !

If I could go back...I would still party some...but not like I did...

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:00 PM
What do you mean DID it.........

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:03 PM
as long as they pass it!!!!!!im ok i have a 21 yr old who ii didnt promote pot use, hes now an adult and we party together on occasion, but in his teen age years it was school sports girls and then other stuff.. hes in college well adjusted full time life guard here in ft lauderdale and has a real estate license, hes ambitious but smokes on occasion, that is any day ending in the letter'y'....dont bogart that joint my friend........

 

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I would rather my daughter not get high at all.........

I have been smoking for 34 years.....and she knows that Dad has and is still paying for partying to hard most of his life.

She got a DUI 2 years ago at age 21, her then boyfriend was to drunk and he coaxed her into driving for him....something I never ask my girlfiriends to do if they were drinking to much back in the day.

I told my daughter that I would rather have her sit home and get stoned every so often...other than drink and drive.

I drank until I was 40...if any human ever deserved a DUI...I did...but God had to have been watching over me....I never got a DUI and I talked my way out of at least 3 .

I would advise any teen to stay away from drugs........I killed my self-esteem and confiidence in myself.

I'm trying to put the Weed away for good now.......but who knows.

Casual smoker - okay

Pothead - ZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I hate alcohol now....cause it has ruined so many people lives that I have known.

But I don't lecture folks that do drink....i'm just glad I don't.

I always cared more about weed than having alcohol.

ONE THING I WISH EVERYONE would stay away from is METH !!!!

I tried smoking it within 2005... 2 or 3 times and had enough sense left in my shot out brain...to never try it again.

It hurt me for a while...mentally and physically...and that was just a few tries....I was an IDIOT for that.

METH IS HORRIBLE AND IT KILLS !

If I could go back...I would still party some...but not like I did...




U couldn'thave said it better... I don't drink at all... I am the girl SOBER dancing on the bar - so what I am capable of drunk - don't even want to find out... MY dad is a drinker and the health problems he has - scares me too death...

I partied so much as a teenager and in my 20's - I can remember waking up and thinking danm I have to go find my car - realizing that I drove and don't even remember how.. I can't even imagine what I could have possible done to myself or someone else - scaresme now.. I tried jut about everything and now - can't imagine going back and doing it again.. prob in a short 10 year period - I took atleast that much off my life

As for smoking it amazes me though how many people of my generation still smoke weed.. I would have to say atleast 1/2 or more still smoke.. I still try once in while an have to say - fell asleep with in 30 minutes.. so not much fun for me..

As for my daughter - I am not as niave as my mother (not dad) was - and I know that she is going to try things and party and I can only hope that she is smart and comes to me if she is wasted on anything and doesn't drive or put herself or anyone else in harms way.

But I have seen with a lot of my firends that have older kids - the tighter the leash the worse they are - you ahve to accept your kids aren't perfect - but you have to hope the learned from you.. The worst kids - they aretheones on the shortest ropes...



 

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Meth is the most fokked up drug there is. I have been honest with my past abuses with my kid as my thinking is if I expect her to be honest with me then I should be honest with her.So we talk about it and I don't make it sound like my glory days.I quit drinking in 1985 and for me alcohol was bad news.Almost killed me on several occasions and if I had not quit i would have been gone along time ago. Meth is prevalent in the school I teach so talk with your kids and show them the costs and what is out of bounds in your household

One of my best friends i grew up with battled addictions for years with cocaine.My daughter loved him like an Uncle.He overdosed on heroin in 1997 and I miss him every day.My daughter saw first hand what can be lost and how little can be gained from hard drugs,I hope that lesson stays with her always. If that happens then at least one good thing came from his death

Its funny how it changes when your the dad!

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:17 PM
I'm pretty sure my kids(29, 26, 19) know their old man gets high. And I'm pretty sure they do too, although they seem to enjoy drinking more. As long as it does not deter them from their goals and enjoyment of life (it never has to me), what the hell. But it's easier to let it slide than to talk about it.
 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:26 PM
I definitely see the dangers and upsides of pot use all the time... I'm 17.

I have friends who are daily pot smokers, casual smokers, and non-smokers. In my opinion, pot isn't a bad thing at all, in fact I find it to be metally stimulating if used casually. My friends who are daily pot smokers have lost a lot of their sense of motivation and many times aren't very fun to be around anymore---I see where one can get the idea the pot is bad for the mind.

But in my experience, pot can be good if used occasionally and responsibly (I know people who will smoke and drive, i simply don't do that). I'm a straight A student and I am motivated in school...and yes, i smoke pot on the weekends. I think the problem isn't that pot is bad, its just that many teenagers don't know their limits. I've gone through periods in the summertime, where by the end of the summer I can't think much anymore. I don't really like that feeling, and I know my priorities. Maybe I even agree that for most people, smoking pot shouldn't be done until later in life, but its not pot that is bad, it's just that smoking pot irresponsibly that is bad.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:28 PM
It is hard enough growing up and trying to navigate thru those teen years sober. Throw drugs on top and it is very easy to get caught up in the ,"live life and have fun rut". It is mostly responsibility free and damn fun ( that is if you do it right!). However,you wake up one day and wonder what the hell happened. The trick is to serach for your passion, set goals, and understand that the decisions and efforts you make in those teen and early adult years ( 14-23) can and most often will affect your quality of life for a long ass time! That is not to say one can't right the ship if it has sailed into stormy waters, but it sure is alot more difficult. Set your course early and you sail the party boat later in life.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:35 PM
Cortezthekiller,seems like you have your head on straight. Moderation seems to be the key.Hope it always stays that way with you, but Buzzy82 makes a very good point,keep your priorities and goals in focus,cause for alot of us the 70's got blurry and we lost our way.And it is hard to get back on course, luckily for me I did wake up just in time.

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:45 PM
I saw first hand what can happen - after my divorce I dated someone for 4 years... he battled his demons for years ( alot of issues his dad when he was young - his sister was killed when he like 19 and she was 15) - but had the attitude with herb - that it was nothing no better or worse then drinking..

But he had other problems - with depression and didn't see how much the weed contributed to it.. ... after 4 years I literally walked away and said "calll me when you get you s#$t togehter" (and don't get me wring - I def think everyone should make their choices and do as they please and live there life the way that makes them happy - I'm just not stayingif it doesn't make me happy). I was the first person that did that.. and he did start to get it togheter with work and finances and from what others had told me - and for the most the partying - brought it down a little ..we talked after almost a year and made plans for dinner Sept. 12, met and were going to try to work on it. We went out again on the 15th...

He told me he was ok - and that he still partied a little but it was under control ...

He was killed in a one car accident in Sept 17 2004 - his blood alcohol was .28, they found traces of coke, weed, methaphetamines, and some other misc in his system..the guy in the car with him is still rehabbing to this day

I can tell you that there is nothing in the world like that phone call... Hello TRPD we are looking for next of Kin (his parents were away and I was still listed on everything for him)..

I contemplated for a while about what to tell my daughter and I told her the truth about the drinking (not the drugs - 9 was too young for that) and I hope that in the back of her mind - that stays there... some told me I was wrong for telling her the truth but it might make the difference in never getting that call again...




 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 09:47 PM
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I'm 15, started when I was 14, but have stopped recently. I need to focus on my school work and basketball (we're playing Mount Vernon tomorrow, ranked 14th in the country, huge game). I've been off the stuff for about 2 months now.


Ismoked all the way through HS and college and played Basketball. I would have been 10 times better if I didnt smoke. Im now 47 still smoke and play ball 3 nights per week. Im waiting for that question to come from my 12 year old daughter, I cant lie to her
Be smart Vinsanity, school is real important. Good luck in your game let me know the outcome!

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Meth is the most fokked up drug there is. I have been honest with my past abuses with my kid as my thinking is if I expect her to be honest with me then I should be honest with her.So we talk about it and I don't make it sound like my glory days.I quit drinking in 1985 and for me alcohol was bad news.Almost killed me on several occasions and if I had not quit i would have been gone along time ago. Meth is prevalent in the school I teach so talk with your kids and show them the costs and what is out of bounds in your household

One of my best friends i grew up with battled addictions for years with cocaine.My daughter loved him like an Uncle.He overdosed on heroin in 1997 and I miss him every day.My daughter saw first hand what can be lost and how little can be gained from hard drugs,I hope that lesson stays with her always. If that happens then at least one good thing came from his death

Its funny how it changes when your the dad!

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[Edited on 1/10/2006 by CowboyNeil]


Cowboy our stories are very similar. I have been clean since 94. I lost a real good friend to Herion a few years back In a way I have been my kids best deterrent against drugs they saw what it did to me. And I have been honest with them about it when they ask questions.
I even went back to school and did a career change

 

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If I may be so bold, TanDan might have some words of wisdom.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 10:07 PM
I think it matters who you are. I've been smoking for 7-8 years every day. I mean every day. I swear that I smoke to get motivated. I also ease depression and anxiety with it. But, most of my friends, which smoke about everyday, smoke at night after work and they wind down. I smoke for the first time in the day at 8 o'clock AM. I feel I can keep from being hypocritical, but not encourage .

 

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I'm 17 and have never smoked pot, but I've seen plenty of it being done and have seen all different types of consequences. A few kids got expelled from my high school last year for doing it, wheras a few of ym good friends do it almost every day and still make stellar grades and are relatively athletic. I remember making a promise to myself in like 7th grade that I would never do smoke pot, and I'm trying to stick to it (it's the only real drug-related thing that I've ever made a serious promise to myself about, so I'd feel terrible about breaking it).

Drinking is a different story. I started drinking about a year and a half ago. It was so much fun the first few times. During high school, we would get together at someone's house on weekends (it was by no means an "every weekend" type of deal - someon'es parents had to be out of town) and drink, and I would generally get pretty wasted and end up doing something stupid. My stories would get spread around andf laughed at, and I thought some of them were pretty funny as well. The first few months of college were much the same way, I simply had access to a lot more alcohol a lot more often. It was still fun - we would tailgate before a football game or party on weekends and have a great time. I never did it on weeknights or anything like that - in fact, I have only drank 12 times in my entire life - 4 in high school and 8 in college. I was by far the most resposible of my friends (there were 6 of us that came from my high school into college with me) as I was generally the driver and did not go out on weeknights. But when I did drink, I liked to get ripped.

Then one Friday about 4 months ago I decided to get hammered. I went over to the apartment where we normally partied and started drinking - I took about 4 shots of rum in 10 minutes. I walked away for a while and went out onto the balcony - some of my friends from Charleston were in town and I wanted to catch up with them. Then about 30 minutes later my friend pulled me back inside to take more shots with him. By this time I was definitely feeling buzzed (okay, I'm a lightweight). So he poured me a shot and I downed it and yelled for another. I proceeded to drink about 5 or 6 more shots of this "vodka" and then walk back out on the balcony. It was about midnight.

This is where my memory of the night ends. It turns out that "vodka" was actually everclear. The next thing I remember is waking up in a hospital bed at 6:30 in the morning, with two IV's in my arms, a nurse on my left side and my mom on my right. The nurse said that my BAC at that time was around .28. This was 6 hours after I stopped drinking, by the way. If I hadn't made it to the hospital that night, I would have died, another college freshman victim to alcohol poisoning.

Apparently my other exploits that night (told to me by my friends) were as follows:
I walked out of the apartment and proceeded to strip to just my boxers. I asked my friend to go streaking with me and then ran across the street (Western Blvd., to those of you familiar with the Raleigh area), playing Frogger with the traffic. I ran back and sauntered up to my friends as if nothing had happened. Two of my friends, like the geniuses they are, had wlaked out of the apartment with beers in their hands, and were promptly approached by a cop. I yelled after them, asking them where they were going and running after them, not heeding the cop. Two of my friends tried to stop me, but I ran past them. It was the best decision I've ever made. When I walked up to the cop he started questioning me, and I only replied in Spanish (I am by no means fluent in spanish - I don't know why that happened). The cop asked my friends if I was even American, at which point I spit on the cop and collapsed onto the ground. When I didn't respond to anything, the EMS was called and I was taken to the hospital.

That was one of the worst, if not the worst, experiences of my life. I haven't touched alcohol since then, and have been the DD of my friends when they go anywhere. I still have no problem with any of my friends drinking, I just try to influence them to not go overboard. I think I will drink again someday, but I won't get "drunk". It's just not worth it - I've seen what can happen and I was extremely lucky to avoid it.

Not to be a downer or anything...I'm all for others having a great time. I'm just trying to learn to have just as good of a time while being sober, or at least to drink in moderation without going overboard. Maybe I'll try it out at the Beacon.

Sorry to ramble, just felt like my story fit here.

 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 10:59 PM
let your kids know what you think about weed. make sure they know what can happen as a result of weed or anything else, don't feed them any bull **** and don't make it out to be any worse than it is because when they find out you're wrong they migh wonder if you were wrong about, for example, a drunk person being able to straighten up to drive etc.. don't try and put restrictions on them in an effort to keep them away from it. if they wanna try they're gonna try it. just trust in that you (hopefully) raised them to make the right decisions. have everything out in the open, don't make them feel like they'll be in huge trouble if you find out, then they're more likely to try and hide it from you. this is all coming from a 'teenager' who smokes mostly just on the weekends and is still a focused musician, full time employee (who is never high on the job) family member,high school graduate, and all that good stuff, hope this helps
 

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  posted on 1/9/2006 at 11:08 PM
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Big Dave,I started smoking pot at 13 and the same thing here,lost interest in school and sports,only getting high,drinking,music and my friends were my priority back then.We did have some fun though,but sometimes I wonder at what cost.


Yep, I went through the same thing, and I pay for it today with low-paying jobs. I plan to return to school to further a secondary career I have but my location doesn't permit it right now, what with the gas prices and time factor. When my kids hit 16 I might go, definitely when they are both eighteen. I have six years to wait....

But seriously, reading this stuff....we've all become our parents. The kids will find a way, but it would help if we could all contribute positively to their world with our stories without limiting their freedom to express themselves in their life, as we all have.

The world's a screwed up place, hypocrisy abounds and morals seem to be on the decline...but it's always been like that. Parents, like us on this thread, have always had something to warn their kids about, some knowledge to pass down of paths better left untreaded.

As I said earlier...we've just become our parents. We aren't the first generation to do so, and we won't be the first ones to try and control our kids to no avail either.

Good luck, y'all...

 

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